Long distance relationships can be full of challenges that couples around the block from each other never face. On the other hand, the creative ways you find to remain connected while you are living apart will improve your creativity when you’re living together.
It’s unbelievably simple to take another person for granted. But when you live apart for a long period of time, you can draw on those memories to bring you closer together when you do live together. This is a bonus that other couples only experience if they intentionally take some opportunity to be creative about linking.
So, while it is a challenge to stay connected, learning these skills now makes your connection better later.
While you’re apart take some time and make the attempt to communicate at least once a day, more often if you can. You can maintain an emotional connection with communication that is brief and frequent. They don’t have to be long, in-depth heart-to-heart conversations but can be brief text messages about your daily life, asking advice or just telling your partner that you’re thinking about them.
Let’s not be stalkish or smothering about it . Calling or texting each hour, waking them up before the alarm clock ordering pizza to be sent to their place for dinner at night is a little much. Instead, aim for substantial and thorough communications about your thoughts, asking questions, asking advice or telling about what happened to you daily.
But, let’s face it. After a little, text messages and phone calls can get tedious. So break the mould and make a video for your partner. Use your phone to tape yourself driving to work, while the phone is in the passenger seat aimed at you. Chat with the phone like your spouse is sitting in the chair beside you.
The art of snail mail is failing in our society now. And yet, there is something much more personal and loving about a piece of paper held in your hand. Write a thank you note to your partner for listening to you while you ranted about your boss.
Try to visit each other as frequently as possible. Long distance can mean a 30 minute trip or a 10 hour trip. Internet dating has made meeting individuals from across the country easier than ever. Schedule as much time together as you can and spend it with other people. We live in community and when you spend it with other people, you actually get to know each other better.
Alternate who does the traveling. It might be easier for you to travel than the other, but it is important that you both put in the effort to see each other. If you can both get off, try meeting somewhere in the middle occasionally. You won’t be able to spend time with friends, but it is a nice way to detach from everyday life and connect with your spouse. Just don’t let it be the only way you meet, or your understanding of life together will be seen through rose colored glasses.
Celebrate the capability to talking about the’dull’ everyday portions of your everyday. Mundane sections of your day are just normal for everybody. Celebrate your ability to share that with your spouse and make them an interrelated part of daily life. During these times make sure to support your spouse in their decisions or when they are stressed or hurt. Ensure you are available to them when things go haywire in their life away from you. Not only do they feel loved and connected when they know you’re available to them, but it deepens your connection, and is not that what you’re after?